PART 1: What’s wrong with me? A question many women I know, personally, tend to ask when things don’t go right in relationships. A question I even ask myself, sometimes. Well, tell me, what is wrong with you? Tell me, what is wrong with me ? There you go…there’s our answer. The very fact we doubted ourselves enough that we had to ask that question. Its so simple, yet so complicated. Its been said that, “whether you think you can or you can’t – your right.” I can honestly say I believe this with all my heart…the only problem is… I haven’t mastered it. Could everything I was against be all that I could love? Could everything I worried about in “relationships” be apart of my greatest joy? Possibly.
Do you remember the days when liking someone was just enough? For some, it didn't matter how they treated you, what kind of attention the gave or didn't give to you, whether or not they had goals, who their friends were, how they got along with their family, if they were reliable, responsible, and whether or not they would make a good father... or mother. When I was in high school, I chose the boys who were cute because they gave me "butterflies"; up into my mid-twenty's I chose the guys who had a nice face, muscular body, and who knew how to have fun because they gave me excitement...and you know what that got me? A LOT of good pictures LOL! J/K :-) No...but seriously, I was shallow, but then again can we really help who we are attracted to and how they make us feel? Nevertheless, I found that its not about choosing the guy because of who he is, how he is, or how "excited" he makes you feel - its about choosing for you . As the years go by, we s...
I remember once there was this guy I dated and I have to be honest…he was an attractive guy and fun to hangout with, but I automatically knew I could never see myself with him in my future. Now I look back and ask myself why? I mean, how could that be if I never gave him a chance? Truth be told, I didn’t want to give him a chance, but only because I knew in my heart it could never be. Is that something a person automatically knows? It must be…could it be that –that was one of Gods gifts he gave to us? An unknown, somewhat psychic ability to determine if someone is right for us, whether we know them or not? All I can say is, I too, have been in his shoes before just as many others have and its not a great feeling knowing someone automatically knows they can’t see themselves with you – it doesn’t even have to do with you liking the person, but it has to do with you being rejected. The let down is in hearing that you can never be that “specia...