Follow Your Bliss

For the longest time, I believed I had this type of "fault" where I always wanted to see how trustworthy some people are, but life has brought to my attention that it was never my fault it was my intuition .  Like all classic scenarios, I  failed to listen to my intuition... because for one reason or another I was hopeful that maybe - just maybe I would be wrong...wanting so badly for it to turn out the way I wanted. This is when I realized , " when your heart wants what is not available to you, your always looking in the wrong direction ."  When I want what is not for me - it won't work, and it certainty won't make me better. Knowing something positive isn't going to come from something/someone who is leaving you feeling suspicious should be intellectually obvious, but for some people (like me) it doesn't become obvious until it you feel it internally. I can't speak for everyone, but all I know is those who keep bringing out something

I've learned... Your never too old to break the cycle...

"What you put up with, you end up with."

Had I not been lost, I would have never discovered who I am.

I've learned...   Its not about what you did wrong, its about discovering what you posses to make things right.

"You cant do anything about the past, but you can do something about right now." ~Joel Osteen

"Every adversity, every failure, every heartbreak, carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit." -Napoleon Hill

Ever since I was younger I never really been the type to day dream, talk, or plan out my future wedding.  Although I always looked at wedding dresses and wanted the most gorgeous, glamorous gowns just for show, I never really thought about actually getting married.  I never really cared, but perhaps maybe because the relationships I seen were not worth dreaming of...and when your young, what your around is all you know... During and after high school my mind was set on one thing; I knew I wanted to be in LA and that's where I was going.  My most exciting days was when I first moved to LA.  For the first time in my life I was getting what I always dreamt of when I was a little girl.  I got to be in TV shows, movies, magazines, attend award shows, meet my favorite celebrities - everything was a first, and everything was amazing...and never once did I choose to "de-moralize" myself in the process. Then the day came where I met someone who made me believe in all that I n

"All intimacy is rare - that's what makes it precious." ~ Amy Bloom http://www.oprah.com/omagazine/Os-Words-That-Matter-Inspirational-Quotes#ixzz2hzfrh1kI

As I was driving to work today, I realized I'm close to reaching my short term goals...then it hit me, "Are most people ever satisfied with reaching their goals?"  Am I ever satisfied with my goals?  I'm not. Is it because we love the chase...the challenge...? After thinking about it for awhile, I thought about all the goals I have chased and realized, its not that I love the challenge, its not because I can't be satisfied, its because these goals were not designed for me.  Not that they were meaningless, but not designed for me because I doubted my qualities and skills which disabled my mind; I didn't give myself a chance to realize what gave me fulfillment, so I ended up chasing the wrong goals. Putting limitations on desires defeats the ability to reach your potential ...  I guess, like I've said before, today is a good day to start planing for something new... hopefully, in the right direction.

The moral of this story always makes me feel better.... There were three trees in the forest.  The trees were discussing their future plans. One tree wanted to be a big war boat that was involved in many legendary battles. The other laughed and claim that he wanted to be a beautiful home somewhere really nice. The third, wanted to be a powerful weapon. Well, as you would have had it, things didn't go as planned. The trees, to their disappointment, were cut down by mankind to be used for other purposes... The tree that wanted to be the powerful war boat ended becoming a cradle that held baby Jesus. The tree that dreamt of being a big cathedral ended up becoming a manger that provided shelter and safety to Mary and Joseph as they prepared for Jesus anticipated arrival,  and the last tree that wanted to be a weapon ended up becoming a ...cross. The cross that Jesus carried and crucified on.  You see...our lives may not go as planned because sometimes God has a bigger and bette

" Make the most of yourself...for that is all there is of you. " ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I'm glad I came across this quote; I needed a reminder: "Chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want right now."

Assumption is like poison in relationships; insecurities are the death of them.

I think it would be safe to say we have all gone through some pivotal turn point in our lives, right?  That one situation that either hurt us...maybe it made us stronger...maybe it made us grateful...maybe it just made us smarter the second time around, but have you ever looked back at that "shitty" experience and thought, "that absolutely did nothing for me."  "I already knew that.." "I learned nothing?" For years I looked back at one of the worst decisions I ever made.  Actually, maybe my desions weren't that bad, they were only human; I cared.  I loved.  I just chose to make these decsions with the wrong person; however, for years I saw certain "events" in my life as a waste .  I was angry I couldn't take those "moments" back, but more upset because I thought I went through all that "horribleness" and gained nothing out of it....nothing that would make me "wiser."  Then I realized, maybe my ex

I have always believed in "product of your environment" "you are who you hang out with"  "be with the kind of people you want to become" etc, but now I know there is a difference between believing in being surrounded by greatness, and being around greatness…. After spending time with someone, I realize they either make no impression or they make me grateful that I was able to spend time with them.  Great people lift me up--even when nothing is wrong; they bring me to life--like charging up the batteries that life extinguishes; whatever situations are going on--they make me forget its existence.  Great people are like healthy seasonings: They bring color, variation, enhancement…they bring…life.  It's said that God is in the details, and I would agree.  I would also add he is in all things unexplained - There's just that "something" a true good-hearted person does that is quite indescribable and maybe that indescribability is what m

" If we wait for all the conditions to be just right, we'll never move off dead center ."  ~ Ecclesiastes Today is a day to stop making excuses.  If you continuously make excuses, you will always have one!

“In life, you need either inspiration or desperation.”  ―  Anthony Robbins

It's been awhile before I read a book as comforting as the one I am recommending.  Regardless of your religion/spirituality, this book opened the path to new perceptions about difficult situations.  I can honestly say this book has helped me tremendously from falling into depression; only some books leaving you feeling happy after reading a few pages, and this is definitely one of those books. ABOUT THE BOOK: The most basic question everyone faces in life is Why am I here? What is my purpose? Self-help books suggest that people should look within, at their own desires and dreams, but Rick Warren says the starting place must be with God and his eternal purposes for each life. Real meaning and significance comes from understanding and fulfilling God's purposes for putting us on earth. READ MORE: http://purposedriven.com/books/pdlbook/

This time of year is always a special time in my life; August 1st, marks my eight year anniversary living in LA.  What makes it special, is knowing I moved here alone physically and financially.  Furthermore, to anyone else whose moved away from their home/family and is 100% independent - my hat goes of to you too:-) My friend told me about a quote in the movie called Fight Club.  When I heard it, I absolutely fell in love with it- not just because it sounds good, but because its the truth that my journey to LA has made me feel.  In this particular scene its said, " It's only after you've lost everything that you're free to do anything ." Whenever someone moves away from their family and has to financially make it on there own, the definition of struggle is taken to a whole other level. Its like tightrope walking:  Every move feels dangerous and at any moment you feel your bound to fall. When I moved to LA, I started off living in my car.  I was already maki

Sometimes realization of the truth stumbles upon you with a pleasant surprise: "Potential leaders come to you to offer help more often than you go to them to give guidance."              -J.C. Maxwell

"There are no shortcuts to any place worth going." ~ Beverly Sills

" If you don't understand your value, you'll neve r know what you have." Once I was told that being in your twenties was called, "the lost twenties."  Most my friends and acquaintances who are in this age bracket (including myself) are/were trying to figure out who we are,  what we want, and what we are meant to be - perhaps this is what makes dating so difficult?  How can we get what we want, when we don't know what we want?  How can we get what we deserve, if we don't understand what we have to offer?  Of course this doesn't apply to just dating, but to all areas of life.  There's not one person I ever met who didn't have something unique about them that sets them apart from everyone else - OWN IT, and you can have it all. 

" W hether you think you can, or you think you can't -- your right." ~ Henry Ford Throughout the years I have heard of people experiencing an "Epiphany", or otherwise known as that, "Ah-Huh" moment, but it wasn't until recently have I experienced my own "Ah-huh" moments... or at least it wasn't until recently where I actually paid attention to them... Probably like many woman, I have a tendency to read into the details - to over analyze what "is" when in fact what is, is what it shall be.  So whats the use?   I've seen or read things in the past that perhaps made me upset in some way, but as corny as it will sound, I found that the more love and happiness I put towards whatever it was that was upsetting me, begins to subside and no longer has a negative effect on my emotions.   Perhaps wishing nothing but happiness towards someone you may be mad at, or appreciating your surroundings no matter how much

i f you don’t let go of the wrong people, the right people won’t show up...

Many people can't seem to break away from their cell phone when there with family, friends, significant others...etc.  I'm not saying that - that's wrong or right, but I will say when I'm with someone (one-on-one), I indirectly tell you - you are worthy of my undivided attention.  In that moment, nothing is more important then what you have to say - I'm not pulling my phone out every two minutes to see what I'm missing out on.  Now I wonder...if I know how to give someone else that type of courtesy, shouldn't I be smart enough to know I deserve it to? Of course my example of the "cell phone" is extremely general, and strictly opinion, but when you look at the big picture, the undisputed facts are that people pay attention to what they want and people will always put what they want first and you deserve to be number one . If what you want is love, don't ever expect it to come from someone where you will always be number 2, 3...or however

“We are all failures- at least the best of us are.”  ―  J.M. Barrie It's funny how letting go of certain fears and "blocks" can bring you to a more accepting, creative, and positive frame of mind; it's like being able to see the bottom of the ocean after the waves have calmed... Not to say those who "win" gain nothing, but those who have lost, gain much more when they can actually defeat the "loss."  It takes much courage, determination, and heart for someone to rise above when their hopes have been spiritually bruised. These are the ones that have the great stories, make great examples, and become the great inspirations. (i.e. Walt Disney, Lucille Ball, Dr. Seuss) In the past, I have won and it felt great. I loved the attention, and the praise for my victory and hard work.  I have also lost, wept, and let myself feel inferior in some of my endeavors.  The "win" was my " high" the "loss" was my "

"Humility is not denying your strengths; humility is being honest about your weakness" - Pastor Warren

I came across something I thought could be interesting to some readers…. According to Pastor Rick Warren, he says that there are five things that “SHAPE” a person, they are: SPIRITUAL-   What is your gift?  Everyone is gifted to do something! HEART- What do I love?  We all have different passions. ABILITY-                    What is my natural inclination?  Some people are really good with money, animals, people…etc.                            PERSONALITY-         Some people enjoy routine or variety…this will depend on our purpose. EXPERIENCES-         Vocational   Family- good and bad Educational- what we learn at school Spiritual                                             And my personal favorite…    Painful experiences I read that God never wastes a hurt, and to me, this is because it is meant to be used for something good…something better.  Every time something negative or hurtful happened i

“Every day offers us simple gifts when we are willing to search our hearts for the place that's right for each of us. ”  ―  Sarah Breathnach

...it took more courage to go back then it did to let go--that's when I knew I was wrong.

There are studies that have been done on how one can stay motivated and how to change your lifestyle, and then there are testimonials.  I prefer to read or hear about someone’s personal experiences over reviewing statistics-for me… it’s just more motivating, it gets me thinking, “if she can do it, so can I!” One of the best things that ever happened to me was landing a job at a gym when I was 17.  I met new friends who were personal trainers, aerobics instructors, and nutritionist-- they began to educate me on lifting techniques and how to use the equipment in the gym properly; this all perked my interests in working out and developing healthy eating habits.  By the time I was 20, I was an AFAA Certified Aerobics Instructor. It always makes me happy when I see people around me try to incorporate healthier habits into their life, but often times I see them become easily discouraged; I see their best attempts fizzle.  Now I may not be an expert, but I can say that since I'v